Friday, July 31, 2015

Anger: The realm of time between two people, who have already reconciled in the future

Let me see a show of hands of how many of us like to be angry. Well! For the two of you who have raised your hands I'd like to say, "Well, I have nothing specific to say." This post is for the rest of us who do not comprehend or accept that heightened temper and tone.

How often do you see someone who is soft in his demeanour getting pushed over? And, when was the last time you saw someone who had a bad temper not getting his way? So, you see there are definite advantages of being angry. Anger and temper represent a language of their own. Bosses who speak that language get to have their work done with utmost fervour by their sub-ordinates, whereas those bosses who don't speak this language don't get taken seriously. It's one of the greatest tools to get attention, and remember, in the world of marketing, there's nothing called negative publicity. Jimmy's job of warding off strangers is done only if he barks. Jimmy gets food only if he barks. And, Jimmy gets to be walked only if he barks.

On the other side, we tend to get annoyed by people who bark as dogs. It's possible that we would do as they please, but would have no respect in our hearts for such people. And, if the situation persists, those people who bark would have no friends and well-wishers, which is not too bad if he is Bruce Wayne. But, for the rest of us herbivorous birds, it's heart-breaking to have people hating us behind our backs.

Now, on this side, imagine how much pseudo-respect you could get amongst your relatives if you are deemed an angry person. It's Woww, right? It's pseudo alright, but then it's Woww too. Anger is a relieving emotion, much like, how a poet feels after articulating his love. Anger is good, once done with.

But, the problem for angry people is that they would get a whiplash sooner or later, when they meet their match. And, anger gives you bad health, and I'm guessing, bad breath too. Anger masks your true nature and it takes a discerning soul to unveil your tone of voice to understand your spirit. By 'you', I don't mean you, but just they. Angry men breed angry households. And, it's no fun to watch two people yelling at each other. Imagine how pitiful it would be to be angry but have someone show it on you as well. It forces one to go out of the house and show his anger on inanimate objects that he kicks or throws on the ground, all because those objects don't hit back. But, the best type of anger is one that has two people involved - one doing and the other getting done. Anger is the realm of time between two people, who have already reconciled in the future.

But, in severe situations, anger works like magic. It does what even the most piercing sentences cannot do - send a strong message home. Handed down to man by devil himself, anger is a weapon and a miracle, which loses its sheen when used.

Monday, July 20, 2015

Love: life's way to promote you

Before we get to what love can be, let's delve into what love is. Love in one word is understanding, that which leads to patience, forbearance, and maturity. Love makes a better person, one who gives without expectation, the kind of love pets show us, and nature bestows upon us. Love does not discriminate, has no identity and gives no room for negativity. Love cares but doesn't smother, doesn't ask but suggests, and doesn't scold but kisses. Now, is love a feeling, emotion, or behaviour? I'd think it's a mode of being, a state of existence. True love does not colour one's thoughts, emotions, and feelings, but it permeates the source of all thought, emotion and feeling. Hence, true love determines your feelings, emotions and behaviour.

So, you could ask: "If love is meant to be a state of being, then one can and must love all. And, love them all the same way. So, does it mean that one could love more than one person?" Well, to answer this, let me analyze the difference between romance and love. Romance is often misunderstood for love. Romance is an independent layer in the brain, stemming from lust. Love has nothing to do with it, though when layered on love, romance could be much more interesting. The answer to the question is that one can love more than one person. Love in the true sense of the word. And, at the extremity, I envision a realized soul as one who can and must love all, and all of them the same way. And, if one reaches that state, he/she would have little use for lust/romance/flirtations. Sex just becomes an act, just like one that satisfies a bodily urge, like hunger or thirst. And, I'm guessing that at that coveted state of realization, one could and will sublimate this urge, where probably sex amounts to nothing. Therefore, my theory is that if one could love all, he has attained salvation. This is probably why people say that one of the paths to God is to practise unconditional and absolute love, and that love is divine. We reject love in our lives in so many ways, at so many instances. When juniors show it to us at work, we feel they are fawning over us; when the seniors show it, they are weak; when it's our parents they are protective; when it's our friends, they are so boring. Let me tell you that every time love knocks on your door, it's life's call to upgrade you. Show love and see change.