We tend to fulfill our dreams, desire, and promises through our offspring. What if the child has the exact opposite in mind to do? The parent wants the boy to become a doctor, whereas the boy wants to be a photographer, wherein lies the conflict. If the father is unable to push the agenda through other emotional means, he then questions the love that the boy has for his parents. Does love figure here at all? This is plain, emotional blackmail. And, the worst part is that parents seldom ask anything for themselves. It's for their "children's welfare" that they want them to act in a certain manner. "Become a doctor, you will earn a lot and be happy". It's similar to asking you to sacrifice what would give you happiness, so that you can be happy. This kind of sacrifice is spiritual suicide. The father wants the son to be something because he himself could not become it, since his own father wanted him to be something he didn't want to. It's a virus handed down generations and it has to stop somewhere. Vicarious pleasures, happiness, and achievements are past participles. The new age philosophy is simple enough: If you wanna do it, you do it. Let others do what they wanna do! By virtue of being the parents of a child, there's more responsibility towards the happiness of the child than claim to ownership of the child's life. After all, the child didn't choose his parents, it's the parents who chose to bring the child into the world.
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