The thing that irks the older generation is price rise, in addition to
how things have changed in the family system, and that people this
generation haven't worked even half of theirs, and aren't disciplined
enough - these things irritate us. They also lead us to imagine the
distances they have covered by foot back in the days. Also, old people become
inconsistent, irregular, abnormal and senile. And, the mother-in-law
always says, "You can't care enough for my boy, the way I could". If you
are an old person, understand how the younger generation sees you. Even
if you don't look old due to the gym, face-lift programmes or botox
applications, you can't become indispensable beyond an age, as it's
inevitable to grow old.
The same younger generation gets old and the situation reverses: we feel weak and feel the need for our sons and daughters to understand our perspectives and pardon our hearing problems, while letting us be, and giving us that understanding of our state. And, this is what our parents wanted but we didn't give it to them. Let's stop and think what's happening: Young people are confident, due to physical power and emotional strength owing to a perennial income, however, the older generation being dependent on someone else are powerless, which makes them vulnerable. Weak and vulnerable people need understanding. But so are our children, vulnerable and powerless, yet so many of us take advantage of their state. If we had done unto them the scoldings, the ill tempers, the unreasonable logics, then as parents, we would reap their rewards or penalties when we are weak and vulnerable ourselves. Give your children a positive experience during their young age and they return the favour to you when you are old.
On the contrary, if we drive our parents to old age homes, we are heading there ourselves. If we disrespect our parents, we are inviting it in our own lives: what we deal unto our parents would be dealt unto us by our offsprings. No matter which generation, parenting requires sacrifice. I'm not philosophically evaluating sacrifice here, though. But, in their own method, they sacrifice. Let's understand the parents' role and give them a little support.
The same younger generation gets old and the situation reverses: we feel weak and feel the need for our sons and daughters to understand our perspectives and pardon our hearing problems, while letting us be, and giving us that understanding of our state. And, this is what our parents wanted but we didn't give it to them. Let's stop and think what's happening: Young people are confident, due to physical power and emotional strength owing to a perennial income, however, the older generation being dependent on someone else are powerless, which makes them vulnerable. Weak and vulnerable people need understanding. But so are our children, vulnerable and powerless, yet so many of us take advantage of their state. If we had done unto them the scoldings, the ill tempers, the unreasonable logics, then as parents, we would reap their rewards or penalties when we are weak and vulnerable ourselves. Give your children a positive experience during their young age and they return the favour to you when you are old.
On the contrary, if we drive our parents to old age homes, we are heading there ourselves. If we disrespect our parents, we are inviting it in our own lives: what we deal unto our parents would be dealt unto us by our offsprings. No matter which generation, parenting requires sacrifice. I'm not philosophically evaluating sacrifice here, though. But, in their own method, they sacrifice. Let's understand the parents' role and give them a little support.
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