I can form instantaneous opinions of people, like magic. Sometimes,
they don't need to have uttered a word, their posture gives away (in 2
seconds) what type of a person he/she is and for that I could hate
him/her from my gut. You should try this at home / your office / the
local train. Look at a person you have never seen before and form an
opinion of him/her - good person or bad
person, likeable or hate-worthy. And, this is easier if we hear them
talk. "Man, his English!", "Ugh! Her foul breath!!"
Our minds are constantly fishing for similarities / differences in strangers, since we are highly deterred by differences and equally appeased by similarities. We fit the person to a "certain" mould of desirable characteristics, and we judge the person's nature based on the extent of fit. Left to me, it's fine to even come to this stage, but if we go further and form an opinion of the person, he/she is then painfully categorized as a "liked" or a "disliked" person. And, obviously, a "disliked" person can only cause a "disliked" experience in us. In a relationship, to come here takes a while, but then start the tantrums, fault-finding and rifts. This process can finish over a cup of coffee, over a period of courtship or worse still, over a lifetime, the duration of the relationship depending on the extent of experiences between the two and the maturity and patience of the person judging.
I believe that it's for a life-enriching reason that people are brought into our lives; in order to create a balance, such as, there's no light without darkness, no satisfaction without craving and no joy without sorrow. Everyone on Earth is unique; no one can replace another. The presence of unique people around us, gives us a unique experience, none better or worse than another's. This subjective experience is tailored for us, based on our needs. How and by whom? I don't know! Do I like all people interactions I have? No! But, it makes me feel important to realize the effort and energy that has gone into designing my people experiences, supposedly in my best interest.
Differences between people are personality differences. That only makes us different in nature, not in quality. Glory be to the One who has delivered different people to my life, and praying He would give me the forbearance to welcome them as part of my inevitable experiences, and appreciate their presence!Thank you all!
Our minds are constantly fishing for similarities / differences in strangers, since we are highly deterred by differences and equally appeased by similarities. We fit the person to a "certain" mould of desirable characteristics, and we judge the person's nature based on the extent of fit. Left to me, it's fine to even come to this stage, but if we go further and form an opinion of the person, he/she is then painfully categorized as a "liked" or a "disliked" person. And, obviously, a "disliked" person can only cause a "disliked" experience in us. In a relationship, to come here takes a while, but then start the tantrums, fault-finding and rifts. This process can finish over a cup of coffee, over a period of courtship or worse still, over a lifetime, the duration of the relationship depending on the extent of experiences between the two and the maturity and patience of the person judging.
I believe that it's for a life-enriching reason that people are brought into our lives; in order to create a balance, such as, there's no light without darkness, no satisfaction without craving and no joy without sorrow. Everyone on Earth is unique; no one can replace another. The presence of unique people around us, gives us a unique experience, none better or worse than another's. This subjective experience is tailored for us, based on our needs. How and by whom? I don't know! Do I like all people interactions I have? No! But, it makes me feel important to realize the effort and energy that has gone into designing my people experiences, supposedly in my best interest.
Differences between people are personality differences. That only makes us different in nature, not in quality. Glory be to the One who has delivered different people to my life, and praying He would give me the forbearance to welcome them as part of my inevitable experiences, and appreciate their presence!Thank you all!
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